LIFE OF THE INDIVIDUAL OR CONNECTEDNESS WITH OTHER PEOPLE? (EXCERPTS FROM CONFERENCES WITH IDRIS LAHORE)
In life, each person is constantly making the choice between two paths – either the path of the ego or the path of connectedness. This means that a mediator, therapist, or practitioner has already chosen his own path from among these two.
The path of the ego is the path of duality, and often of conflict with other people and events. It is the path of fear, shame, and guilt, of jealousy and envy, of apathy and depression, of anger and hate, of vanity and self-pride, of spite and resentment; it is the path of disequilibrium that leads to all forms of inner and outer disturbances, to all physical, emotional, intellectual, and even spiritual problems (when the word spirituality is at all applicable). It is the path that leads to unhappiness and ill-being for ourselves and often for other people.
The other path, the path of connectedness, is the path of love, friendship, peace, and compassion, of joy, harmonious relationships, forgiveness, equilibrium, and euphony, of empathy, understanding, courage, and commitment. It is a path of self-realisation at the service of other people.
In our lives, each one of us has the choice of following the path of the ego, which eventually leads to illness and unhappiness for ourselves and for other people, or the path of connectedness, which leads to harmony and euphony for everyone. It is also possible for us to pass from one to the other at any moment. In our view, the true and final goal of the mediator’s work is to himself evolve on this path of connectedness, in this way helping his clients to pass from the path of the ego to the path of connectedness.
The mediator’s personal inner evolution is an essential precondition for the return to harmony, euphony, and physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual health and well-being.
Obviously, it is possible to help people who are on the path of the ego; from the mediator’s point of view, this is even a very important kind of help, but a help of a lower nature which does not correspond to man’s deepest aspiration and true nature. However, it is necessary to respect each person’s choice, with the awareness that when a mediator who is himself on the path of connectedness applies euphonic techniques, this will always have a nourishing effect on the profound nature of his client, even if his client is not yet in contact with his true nature and is still pursuing the path of the ego. The mediator’s compassion must include people who are still on the path of the ego, since their true nature is even more forgotten and abandoned than that of people who are engaged on the path of connectedness.
In man’s life, one of the indications that he has passed from path of the ego to the path of connectedness is the manifestation of active gratitude, which leads in turn to material, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual generosity, and also the ability to forgive: to forgive himself and to forgive all the people he believes to be responsible – now or in the past – for his own problems and difficulties. These two essential qualities of gratitude and forgiveness often appear as the consequence of work on oneself, and they are one of its most beautiful fruits… but this fruit is sometimes only obtained after many efforts and a long struggle against the conflictual and dualist manifestations of the ego.